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The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Serano is definitely the personal anecdote to Butler's hard theory. I feel kind of conflicted about Whipping Girl - I really needed to be reminded that every experience of being trans is what being trans is, and that some people really do feel strongly (and with evidence - it's not just her... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Well, it's just... I know! That's a really serious thing and it's definitely the context that it should all be looked at, but also, if someone is a rapist that's also a pretty big deal. I guess I was pretty trusting because I have several trans* friends who somehow like galesofnovember and are... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
This is a PM from the poster: I just... I haven't heard about this person being anti-trans or ace-shaming, where did you see about that? I've only known them as being pretty cool, and just. I just totally refuse not to look at things like this seriously, or at least not to have severe... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
I'm kind of fed up about hearing positive news about her, after hearing about how she's kind of a rapist. :(! (learn about it! though mostly I've heard about it through a friend's correspondence with the original poster, who's taken that down now) I just really didn't want this to be the spin on... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
ugh I NEED A PLACE TO VENT so. my friends keep the creepiest company I swear so there are lots of random pictures of me on facebook right. so one of my old school friend's creepy random pals who I have never met just posts like "nice ass hope it's a girl!!!" okay first UM WOW CREEPY this guy... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Yeah, getting rid of pubic hair is really different to anywhere else. :V Even shaving there hurts a lot, takes ages, doesn't work well, and can be reeeally not good for you. idk even if I was randomly super-against pubic hair I don't see why a stubbly crotch would be much more attractive ... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Sometimes I realise where I went to was probably actually an abnormally horrible kind of school. :( EDIT: that said, I guess I have to always mention that the few friends I ever made were all queer and geeky (including one who also now identifies as non-binary), so. I guess it was oddly... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
I can really relate. I'm sorry. :c Well, my situation was a bit different, and it was a few years ago, but I remember one of the first things I did upon beginning to realise I wasn't straight was join a 'I support LGBT'-type group on Facebook, and instantly my mum ran into my room and started... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Then why is it only foul for an arbitrary set of people?? aaaargh I had a massive post the forum ate it. Jolty I've only had (mostly) queer friends, so! :c Thooough I do have a pair of friends who've fallen out over one being fairly clueless about how to be decent to a trans* person (I just try... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
I prefer whatever makes my partner feel comfortable! That goes for most things. -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Yessss. Say what you will about Friends, but they did something *so* right there and I will never stop mentioning it routinely. They were just meant to be *perfectly* normal (particularly no more or less glamorous than the other characters), Ross' silliness about them got lots of eyerolls from... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Yay, hi Keltena!! I feel like I should have advice, but really, I know personally I would just... not tell her at all and keep it hidden. :c I know you want to get it in the open, and maybe you're more resilient when it comes to explaining things to generally well-meaning but totally confused... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
I agree with pretty much all of this!! It's a shame that Moffat's become so dodgy in various ways, I remember when he was just the-one-who-writes-creepy-episodes and nobody expected any of this. And I am really not someone who should be trusted with knowing Doctor Who storylines, but there was... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
I disagree! As a person who actually uses/is around people who use non-standard pronouns a lot, I think some do come across in different ways. Maybe not necessarily completely blank, but certainly different... qualities? Feels? I don't know, pronouns are important and it makes sense! Obviously... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Hi, Keltena! I'd say that unless you really, really, really want to have a word for yourself, I wouldn't bother trying to figure out whether bigender or genderfluid or something else or whatever works and just ignore the issue entirely. To be honest, finding a ~label that works feels more to me... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
So I went to a trans* ed thing run by the uni LGBT society and it was pretty good! I was sceptical since in recent years I haven't really been bothered about attending LGBT events since I figured they'd be pretty overbearing, but this was great and for the first time since coming to university... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
But isn't the article going on about hold-ups due to not looking like their picture? I'd think if it were about gender the problem would be people not feeling comfortable, rather than because it's "highly inconvenient". -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
The article is written pretty badly ("whose partner was born female", really?) but this is pretty good headway! I wonder if it's something only restricted to transpeople though, rather than anyone who's non-cis? I mean it says "those of ambiguous sex" but what about ambiguous gender? It's... -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
Hey, uh, could you maybe not use slurs like 'tranny' here? You might be comfortable with it, but most other people are certainly not and apart from being considered extremely obscene it's also a very common trigger. Please be more considerate, yeah? -
The QUILTBAG Club (formerly the LGBT club)
I was seventeen. Considering your age, Lorem, I really wouldn't be worried at all. I really never expected to be in a relationship with a girl until at least university.